SOULspace

I tried something new today Inspired by a friend who more often than not, questions my parenting style... So the question here was, how effectively am I modelling anger management to my children, and can I do something else that is Not about losing it and then apologizing and feeling guilty after?? Hmmm...point...yes...I am way better than where I was say about 6 years back, when I could Bark at the drop of a hat (what a cliche...but apt, as my daughter is particularly fond of Dogs and their antics), and be this Sour/Angry person for no apparent reason, other than in all probability spilt milk or milk not yet finished etc...I am sure you have been there and done that too... So for all of us in this eternal space of learning, here is another insight that I had... With tremendous help from a book called Quiet Leadership by David Rock, I tried a new tactic... First, let me narrate the incident, then my paean on the book will follow... A sure shot trigger for my anger is whe

Be Happy I have joined this Theatre group....purely to inflate myself...a total drain on creativity, happiness has forced me to look for a magical space and there it is... 2 wonderful souls, driving a passion train, helping people like me connect with a world that is not competition, judgement, criticism... My assignment for this week to find moments when I experience Nothingness...I could think of a few... sleep being one... moments with loved ones...when we savour our babies...there is an absolute surrender into nothingness... when I am playing a video game!!)...   Turning inwards, within ourselves and finding that peace...that is nothingness as well... happens while meditating... I still have till next week to explore this Nothingness... Do you know or have you experienced any?... hey one more...when I look into the night sky sitting on the beach....staring into that Space...the Nothingness and Oneness....invades my soul...

After some deliberation, I have decided to change my  Blog name More than stories, I  have shared a part of me; my thoughts So keeping that spirit alive, here I call it Soul Space

Some great words uttered From the babes mouth as they say Son: I have to do my home work Me: Ok do it Son: I know what I have to do, but I dont know what to do Me: Duh?!! Me: Got it; you know what homework is to be done; but dont know how to do it? Son: Yes Phew got that one sorted out!! ------------------------------------------------------------------------ (Me: very upset with something that happened with daughter in the school, Me: teary, upset and frustrated) Me: We need to talk about this, cannot ignore how it must make you feel Daughter: Amma, not now, I dont want to talk about it. Please go and handle your feelings and then we'll see... Me: Huh?!! ( Who is the mother here?..I go away rejoicing that her emotional maturity is way better than mine!) ----------------------------------------------------------------------------

I think I have mentioned this before, but methinks it's worth a re-mention now. My daughter is greatly into pointing out discrimination, prejudice and racial biases to us and to me specifically. Though I would like her to boldly state her thoughts and feelings to all and sundry, I guess she is testing waters here and I happily try to support her views. Skin colour and advertisements that proclaim instant fairness gets her goat, and mind you; she started this way back when she was 9; and now she is 11. She dislikes these ads and will tell you skin colour is there for a purpose and what does it serve to try and va(r)nish yourself. Then another conversation about veg/non-veg, and discrimination on religion/ food preferences. She was very cut up that anyone can deny a house on rent because the tenant eats non-veg. For that matter, the boy/ girl divide is another area she can take her guns out for. Typical stereotype that I am, I do make senseless statements, like the other day